If through the slings and arrows of fortune I ever find myself on a dating app I’ll be sure to include “ my mother loved me unconditionally and my mother-in-law was one of my best friends”.
Ah, this is another reason why I so look forward to your posts: the arcane details I find incredibly entertaining, like the Gujarati words – a language of which I do not know a single one – but yet seem so amusingly evocative in their meaning, i.e., “jungli” that I hear “jungle-y”, as in “wild, disorderly, etc.”; and “karapu” that I hear through the filter of Japanese pronunciation, which would sound similar to “crap”. They also prompt reminiscences about my experiences in India and encountering Indians in Singapore and my own biological family. OOOHHH, and “a mother so operatically and violently abusive that my own mother seems charming by comparison.“ Sounds much like my ex-husband’s consistent descriptions of my late former mother-in-law…and my ADHD/dyslexic brain kept trying to auto-correct that to “operationally violent” and I had to push back saying “NO! She really means “operatically”, and it’s so perfect!”
I think that my father summed up the correct attitude, even though it is hard to put into practice. When speaking about his granchildren, he laughingly said, "We work with the granddaughter we have, not the granddaughter we wish we had"..... h/t Donald Rumsfeld. Who knew that Don got something right?
If through the slings and arrows of fortune I ever find myself on a dating app I’ll be sure to include “ my mother loved me unconditionally and my mother-in-law was one of my best friends”.
Ah, this is another reason why I so look forward to your posts: the arcane details I find incredibly entertaining, like the Gujarati words – a language of which I do not know a single one – but yet seem so amusingly evocative in their meaning, i.e., “jungli” that I hear “jungle-y”, as in “wild, disorderly, etc.”; and “karapu” that I hear through the filter of Japanese pronunciation, which would sound similar to “crap”. They also prompt reminiscences about my experiences in India and encountering Indians in Singapore and my own biological family. OOOHHH, and “a mother so operatically and violently abusive that my own mother seems charming by comparison.“ Sounds much like my ex-husband’s consistent descriptions of my late former mother-in-law…and my ADHD/dyslexic brain kept trying to auto-correct that to “operationally violent” and I had to push back saying “NO! She really means “operatically”, and it’s so perfect!”
I think that my father summed up the correct attitude, even though it is hard to put into practice. When speaking about his granchildren, he laughingly said, "We work with the granddaughter we have, not the granddaughter we wish we had"..... h/t Donald Rumsfeld. Who knew that Don got something right?
I'm reminded of the description of insanity ... repeating the same thing endless times and expecting a different result.