Thanks for the food for thought! Hope your mom keeps giving you details of her life, her parents, her childhood home, while she still can. A move is an exciting prospect! Good luck with all your decisions!
The moment for reminiscing passed long ago. To be honest, there's a limit to how much curiosity I have about a family full of narcissists, bullies, theocrats, and a few outright criminals. Some people feel strongly about understanding their roots. I had such urges when I was very young, but dysfunction and ongoing damage from both sides of my family eventually killed off that curiosity. Please don't pity me or anyone like me. Not everyone needs to feel connected to their heritage to feel like a whole human. /shrug/
My point above was that I am absolutely not moving, lol--that would be deeply self-destructive. Maybe I didn't make that clear enough. :-)
There's more backstory here than I bothered writing, but I was trying to express that it's OK to limit what you can do for an aging parent *who was your primary abuser.* This is a message more people need to hear.
Damn...again at the risk of sounding like a broken record..."SO. MANY. REACTIONS!" And not for nothing, I am reminded of the grim horror (if I too could even get back into it at this age and stage of decomposition of any remaining vestige of my erstwhile willingness to toe the line) that awaits if I can't stick the landing with what I am working toward. How is that even a sentence?
Thanks for the food for thought! Hope your mom keeps giving you details of her life, her parents, her childhood home, while she still can. A move is an exciting prospect! Good luck with all your decisions!
Hi Hilary! Thanks for your comment.
The moment for reminiscing passed long ago. To be honest, there's a limit to how much curiosity I have about a family full of narcissists, bullies, theocrats, and a few outright criminals. Some people feel strongly about understanding their roots. I had such urges when I was very young, but dysfunction and ongoing damage from both sides of my family eventually killed off that curiosity. Please don't pity me or anyone like me. Not everyone needs to feel connected to their heritage to feel like a whole human. /shrug/
My point above was that I am absolutely not moving, lol--that would be deeply self-destructive. Maybe I didn't make that clear enough. :-)
There's more backstory here than I bothered writing, but I was trying to express that it's OK to limit what you can do for an aging parent *who was your primary abuser.* This is a message more people need to hear.
Damn...again at the risk of sounding like a broken record..."SO. MANY. REACTIONS!" And not for nothing, I am reminded of the grim horror (if I too could even get back into it at this age and stage of decomposition of any remaining vestige of my erstwhile willingness to toe the line) that awaits if I can't stick the landing with what I am working toward. How is that even a sentence?
LOL. I understood it completely. You and I speak with the same torqued-by-delayed-rage syntax ;-)
Just. DYING!!! 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹